Candice Swanepoel by David Bellemere.
Clearing up a few Misconceptions…
After more than 25 years in the field of psychology, of which about 20 years I spent working with women and men on overcoming emotional and sexual inhibitions, it still frustrates me to see when sexuality is being seen as something that is objectionable or even offensive.
So, let’s try to clear up a few misconceptions…
1. a female nipple is not dangerous!
Contrary to what current tumblr policy changes might try to suggest, so far no incident has been reported in which a person was harmed in any ways by a nipple, neither female nor male! The truth is, the female nipple is designed to foster life in the most positive way, by feeding a needy little baby! To classify the female breast as a whole, or her nipple in particular as offensive and sexually oriented is as if we would classify a cucumber as such - both are designed to feed a human being, both can be used for sexual arousal.
2. nudity is not shameful!
Nobody in their clear mind would ever argue that being hungry, thirsty, or tired is regularly a reason to be ashamed of - because it’s a natural thing that we all are dealing with! Now guess what, we all entered this world in the nude and we all have pretty much the same gender specific appearance. Underneath our clothes, we are all nude. Nudity is the most natural appearance we have and to classify nudity as obscene is the same as calling a tree obscene!
3. sex is fun, but not perverted nor sinful
The funny thing is, none of the individuals that try to tell you sexual activities are disgraceful would even exist on this wonderful planet without sex being involved! The primary natural purpose of sex is reproduction of the species, period. The primary natural purpose of eating is to ensure our body receives energy to live from. Would anybody in his sane mind consider classifying a fancy three-star dinner being a perverted or offensive act just because the only purpose of the fancy dinner is to make the food intake more fun? So why on earth should it be perverted or sinful to add some fun to the act of reproduction? But should sex then not be acceptable only when it serves the purpose of reproduction? Well, ask yourself, is food intake only acceptable when and as long as it serves to still your hunger? Bye, bye chocolate industry, bye, bye food blogs, and bye, bye, fancy restaurants…!
4. porn does not make you a predator
There have been a number of terrible incidents over the last view years in which misguided individuals have steered vehicles into groups of people, often killing and severly injuring dozens. As shocking as those cases were, nobody has seriously suggested to ban all cars and trucks from public life. For good reason, because it’s not the vehicles causing the issues, but the personality of the human culprits. The same applies for porn! It’s not the pornographic presentation that turns individuals into a sexual predators, it’s their emotional pre-conditioning! Taste about porn vary, just like taste about cars - some like it rough and sporty, others prefer it soft and comfy. That’s personal taste, but does not justify any conclusion or judgement about the individuals - unless they turn their passion into something that hurts the defenseless.
…to e continued! 💋